Brief Rant: On What Women Want

“What do women want?”

It is a common refrain. A common question, and an absurd one for a combination of reasons. Today, though, I just want to mention one reason. The reason is this: from person to person, the variation in what people want is enormous.

Let’s assume, for the sake of argument, that there is a specific set of traits and behaviors that the average woman wants. Let’s assume that you collected the data on every woman in the world, aggregated it together, and took an average, and came up with a set of traits that the “average” woman wanted.

This would be an utterly pointless exercise in the context of deciding what to do or how to act when dating a particular woman. Why? Because the variation between individuals is enormous.

Asking what “the average woman” wants in order to decide what to do or how to act when dating a particular woman is like taking the average of the daily weather for every day for the last 10 years to decide whether or not to wear a jacket today.

Just look outside.